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Last Updated on July 21, 2021 by karissa ancell

With a new school year about to start in a few weeks I thought it would be a good time to update and spruce up this post from last year. I think that it is so important for me as a mom to keep communicating with my daughter so she will feel comfortable talking to me and so that I can stay aware of what is going on in her life. So I am all about opening up communication with these questions to ask kids after school. 

These questions will work for me and also for you and your kids. I’m hoping that by doing this now when she’s  in elementary school that she will develop the habit of talking to me about what’s going on in her life. Before I know it she will be a teenager and there will be more important things going on in her world and I want her to trust me and feel comfortable talking to me.

Keeping communication open between yourself and your child is so important. Especially when they are in school and away from you for hours each day, You have to make them feel comfortable talking to you so that if something important happens they will feel like they can come to you. I learned the importance of this when my daughter was in kindergarten and was assaulted by another student. I wrote about that experience here.

I was lucky my daughter felt comfortable coming to me and it really made me aware of the importance of talking to her about things on a daily basis. Now not all days does she have a lot to say but I still go through the same questions and if she wants to elaborate on some answers I’m there to listen.

The questions I ask help me to keep informed on what is happening in class, who she’s getting along with and who she isn’t getting along with. If she’s having problems with another student I don’t necessarily need to get involved but I can help her come up with solutions and step in if things start getting out of control.

Now my daughter is a talker and I understand not all kids are but I think you should still aim to ask two or three questions a day just to know what’s going on in your child’s day. There are lots of questions to ask kids but these are just the ones I use. Use whatever question work for you and your kids. The important thing is just to start talking to them on a regular basis.

 These are my typical questions to ask after school?

1. Who did you sit with at lunch? What did you talk about?

2. What was your favorite part of your day?

3.What was the worst part of your day?

4. What did you have for lunch? (If it was a hot lunch day.)

5. What did you do and who did you play with at recess and lunch?

6. Tell me something new you learned today?

7. Did anything special happen today?

8. How was (enter a friends name) day? Did you two play together today?

9. Did your teacher read a book today? What was it about?

10. What are you doing in class tomorrow?

So what are your questions to ask kids after school? Are your kid’s big talkers, like mine?

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  6. Goldi says

    Great questions! My son is only in his second week and I think he’s already sick of my questions. I kind of try to ask one or two right off the bat and then he will tell me about all of the things he wants to talk about throughout the rest of the night.
    I always ask who he sat with at lunch and who he played with at recess. There is a little boy who has a hard time behaving so I always ask if he had a better day. And best/worst part of the day are always a bonus if I remember, but I am definitely going to add your questions, “Did you learn something new?” and “Did your teacher read a book today?”
    Thanks so much!

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  13. Myrabev says

    I agree it’s important to communicate with your child so they know they can speak to you about anything. Since I never shut up my parents didn’t want to ask him I told them, my parents call it downloading and boy can I download
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  17. Sarah says

    I love the questions! My kids still like to come home and tell me everything. That will end I know, however I am enjoying it while it lasts. Having an Autistic son I have learned to ask lots of questions to ensure that nothing out of the ordinary was happening. (Not that I don’t think it is equally important to ask my girls, but he is more limited in communication than the girls are.

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  18. Daisy says

    I’m happy to find this post because I ask my son how his day is and he says good. These questions would help to make better conversation.

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  19. Jess Scull says

    My son is starting pre school in a week! I am definitely going to be asking some of these questions! Thank you!

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  20. Kristen says

    I love this! My little sister goes off to school tomorrow for her first day of Kindergarten and these questions will def come in handy! Thanks for sharing!

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  24. anastasia says

    oh this is great! My eldest son is quite reserved and Im always asking him questions to get that conversation going…my youngest is always chatting away happily…some great questions here!

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