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I’m always amazed that as my daughter continues to grow up that there are still so many questions I have about am I doing things right and what is the best way to parent. I want her to grow up well and to become a wonderful adult and that means making sure she’s responsible and can take care of herself. That also means that she should be doing chores. I’m left with the question of what are chores that you should give your tween or teen.
My husband wants to give her more chores than I do and I think it’s because I have a tendency to want to baby her a little more than I should. It’s something I’m working on but even though she’s almost 11 she is still my baby. Since we moved to our new home in Colorado in the spring. We have given her more chores than we use to at our old home. I understand the importance of chores but I also still want her to be a kid and have fun. Not being weighed down with tons of extra responsibilities.
So I have tried to find chores that you should give your tween or teen that are not real time consuming or challenging. As kids grow up their responsibilities need to grow with them. So the chores my daughter was doing at 8 were easier than the chores she has now. The chores she will have at 14 will be different as well. I had to remind myself that as kids get older they get new benefits with age like more sleepovers, going shopping, getting a cell phone, etc. So I needed to balance out what she gains with getting older with the understanding that there are more responsibilities as well.
Take on some of the pet chores
We have a lot of pets so we all take on some of the responsibilities of caring for them. We give our daughter the chores of feeding her cat and cleaning it’ box. As well as helping to care for the guinea pig. As well as helping to pick up after the dog outside. Pets are part of the family and it’s important that everyone helps to care for them. Plus it teaches them that pets are not just fun that they are work.
We use to not have her help as much with the pets because I didn’t know how much to have her be in charge of. Then I realized that friends of hers were doing a lot more for their animals including caring for a horse and I saw that it was important for her as a family member to help care for our animals.
make her bed
keep her room tidy
help move laundry
Since my daughter is only 10 she is not quite up to the task of taking on laundry all on her own. I want her to get there at some point so as she gets older she has more to do with her laundry. I help fold it but she puts it all away. She can also move a load from the washer to the dryer and start a new one. I hate doing laundry so I want to make sure she understands how it is done and that she will be able to do her own as she gets older.
empty dishwasher/do dishes
take out the trash
In our house, my daughter is responsible for taking the trash out to the bins. Then on the day, it needs to go out to the street she helps take that out. It’s a small task that helps the family.
keep her bathroom clean
This is a chore that kids have to keep learning to do as they get older. First with keeping the room tidy, then wiping down counters and the sink. Then with floors, toilet, and tub. I think because it involves using cleaners it’s not one of the chores I gave her often as a younger child. once she was 9 we started having her work on her bathroom more.
related post: adding more grown-up chores
wipe down the kitchen counters
Wiping down the counters and doing the dishes are the first chores I’ve begun to give my daughter in the kitchen. Eventually, I will show her how to do the other cleaning tasks in the kitchen. I have found it works better to slowly add in new tasks and not give her a lot of new things to do at once. She keeps a list of what she’ responsible for doing on a whiteboard in her room so it’s easy for it to be added to or changed. This also helps her to remember to do her chores. Though of course her dad and I are often needing to remind her.
vacuum floors downstairs and her room
Vacuuming and sweeping or mopping is a good chore to be added when they are big enough. My 10-year-old is really tall so she’s been doing this for awhile. A few of her friends are still pretty tiny so I don’t know if they could do this chore at their house. It’s about finding chores that you should give your tween or teen that work for your child in your home. All kids and families are unique.
Parenting a tween is a challenge and I’m sure I will continue to make mistakes and learn lessons over these next years as she enters teenhood but I’m hoping that by making her responsible it helps her to be a better kid. That’s why I’ve worked hard finding chores that you should give your tween or teen. I’ve seen too many selfish and entitled teens and I want to do what I can to avoid that behavior with my own children.
Currently, she does not earn an allowance for doing chores but it is something we may start doing in the future. She can earn things she wants us to buy her by doing extra around the house. Do your kids earn an allowance? I’d love for you to leave a comment letting me know what chores they do and if they get an allowance. It’s always helpful to hear from other parents.
Kerah says
Hi,
I’m a mother of 3 girls. My oldest is also 10 years old. I made a chart for her Mon-Fri she has 1 chore to do, her chores consist of: washing dishes, vacuumin g, sweeping/mopping, cleaning the bathroom sink, & cleaning the mirrors. There’s still homework and shower so I made it simple to teach responsibility but not be weighed down. I believe we’re doing an awesome job don’t discredit yourself.
Becky says
Chores are a tricky subject. Not only should they be age appropriate, but responsibility level appropriate. My daughters did a lot more chores around the house when they still lived at home compared to my step-daughter has now. But they were also more responsible and able to handle the extra chores.
I also have mixed feeling about allowances. To an extent chores are just pulling their weight around the house.
Nita Okoye (@inhalelovewithN) says
Our youngest turns 10 soon but they can do almost everything but cook, i was raised that way too and it helped me in a way that when i was to move out i could do everything called a chore.
Justine Y @ Little Dove says
I definitely think that these are some great chores for a kid her age! There are some chores my little ones help me with, but it can be hard to figure out what’s really appropriate for their age range.
Samantha Kuzyk-Raising Twincesses says
My twins are only 4 and I have them do chores already! I will totally have them do chores when they’re older too! Great ideas for me to use in the future!
Francesca says
This is a great list! My kids are 6 and 2 and they have a few chores, but I’m sure I’ll come back to this post for more ideas!
Adree |The Keele Deal says
My kids are still in the toddler stage but growing up we didn’t get an allowance we could do extra jobs for a set price per job. But we didn’t get any money unless we did the jobs. We were only able to do those extra jobs if our regular chores were already done. I think as our kids get older we will probably do something similar. A chore we had starting at a really young age was helping cook a meal one night a week. I am already trying to get my two year old to help. I think this is a great way to teach a life skill and your kids will know how to fix at least a couple different meals when they move out.
Steph says
It’s important that kids have a roles like these in their house!
Molly says
My girls are 8 and 9 and we started implementing chores a couple years ago. We have gone through many systems and I think we’ve finally found one that works. They each have notebooks in their room and every night we write down the two chores they need to do the next day. The next night, they get a sticker for each chore they did and if they did any chores that I didn’t ask them to do, they get two stickers for that chore. I do not nag them to do their chores. They are responsible enough to know that if the chores aren’t done by that night, they don’t get a sticker. Once they get to 50 stickers, they get to chose a prize, whether that’s money, ice cream, or a new toy. They are in competition with each other to get to 50 first, which keeps the motivation going.